How do I pull out an ingrown hair that is DEEP under my skin?

I get the same 2 ingrown hairs on my bikini area every single time I shave/wax/epilate (basically any hair removal method). The first time they appeared it took 2 hours to get them out (with tweezers and needles) and I made so many wounds around that area cause I literally digged into my skin. I thought they would dissapear after I literally violated them but they CAME BACK. Summer is soon and I want to feel good in my swimsuit, but Im insecure about those 2 ingrown hairs because they are so visible and I cant find a way to get rid of them.

I also keep getting hairs that are stuck to my skin on my legs, so i have to use tweezers to seperate them from my skin. I dont get what im doing wrong since I exfoliate my skin pretty often…