Advice on travelling to India as a Polish woman

Hi everyone, I’m writing here because I’m honestly feeling very confused and would really appreciate some honest advice.

I’m a 24-year-old woman from Poland, and I’m in a relationship with my boyfriend, who is from India. I’ve always approached him, his culture, and his background with openness and curiosity. I’ve never had stereotypes about India or Indian people, and I’ve genuinely enjoyed learning more through him.

What makes this difficult is that my boyfriend and his family are incredibly sweet, respectful, and understanding. They’ve always treated me kindly, and that’s exactly where my confusion comes from.

Recently, though, my boyfriend started introducing me to some people from the Indian community here in Poland, and some of those experiences were honestly very uncomfortable for me. A few people made inappropriate or sexual comments, sometimes even to my boyfriend about me, and in certain situations I felt like my boundaries weren’t being respected. It left me feeling uneasy and, if I’m honest, a bit scared.

At the same time, I’ve been thinking seriously about going to India with my boyfriend to meet his family. He’s from Dehradun in Uttarakhand, and we would mainly stay there with his family rather than travel around a lot.

The thing is, I don’t have much travel experience outside Europe, so this feels like a huge step for me. My boyfriend has been patient and tries to explain things to me, but I still feel uncertain and emotionally overwhelmed. I’m someone who really values personal space and privacy, and I worry about cultural differences and whether I’ll feel comfortable there.

I also don’t want to unfairly judge an entire country or culture based on a few bad experiences with individuals. That’s why I’m trying to hear from people who actually know the area or have experience living or traveling there.

So I’d really appreciate honest opinions, especially from people familiar with Uttarakhand or Dehradun:

Is Dehradun generally safe for a foreign woman visiting?
What is the experience usually like for female tourists there?
Are cultural differences around personal boundaries and privacy something I should realistically prepare for?
And considering how anxious and conflicted I currently feel, do you think this trip is a good idea?

Please be kind in your responses. My intentions are genuinely good, and I just want everyone involved, including myself, to feel comfortable, respected, and safe.

Thank you so much in advance.

EDIT: I just want to clarify something again because I think it’s being misunderstood. The people who made those remarks were not his friends. They were just his former roommates (or just random Indian people from the city we live in) and he already knew from the beginning that they weren’t people with good values. I saw them when I went to his old place, and that’s when they made those comments.

My boyfriend treats me very well, honestly the best I’ve ever been treated, and I want to make it clear that these situations are not his fault. He never agreed with any of those comments or behaviors. He is very loving, protective, and caring toward me. He actively removed people from his life who disrespected me, including those roommates. He no longer has contact with them, especially after our relationship became more serious.

The misunderstanding comes from the fact that he is naturally very non-confrontational, and part of that is also cultural. He was raised with very strong ideas about respecting elders and avoiding direct conflict. But that does not mean he accepts the behavior.